How Emotionally Immature Parenting Dehumanizes Children & Compromises Their Development (Part 3)

In astronomy, gravitational dominant means a celestial body is massive enough to control or clear out all other objects in its orbital path through collisions, captures, or ejections. Traditional Christian parenting models, like the ones Burt and McGinnis research in their book The Myth of Good Christian Parenting: How False Promises Betrayed a Generation of Evangelical Families, posture parents as God-like figures in the lives of their children exerting incredible force in the family system.

This post wraps up a three-part series exploring how the parenting style of emotionally immature parents compromises the differentiation process for children. Lindsay C. Gibson’s book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents list traits of EIPs (emotionally immature parents) that fall into three main categories. We’ve looked at how EIPs are immovable and competitive. This week we take a look at their gravitational dominance.

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Save the date! Live substack hour with Kelsey Kramer McGinnis on Friday June 26th @ 11am MST!

How Emotionally Immature Parenting Dehumanizes Children & Compromises Their Development (Part 2)

This post continues a three-part series exploring how the differentiation process for children clashes with the parenting style of emotionally immature parents. We are looking at three key categories from Lindsay C. Gibson’s book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents. Last week we looked at how EIPs (emotionally immature parents) are immovable. This week we take a look at their competitiveness.

The most tragic thing about being raised by an EIP is that what they need compromises what you need. Their underdeveloped relationship with personal power plagues their parenting style and thus undermines the development of their children’s agency. Burt and McGinnis in their book The Myth of Good Christian Parenting: How False Promises Betrayed a Generation of Evangelical Families shed light on how well-intending parents become entwined in power struggles with their children.

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Save the date! Live substack hour with Kelsey Kramer McGinnis on Friday June 26th @ 11am MST!

Emotionally Immature Parenting & Compromised Differentiation (Part 1)

This post kicks off a three-part series exploring how the differentiation process for children clashes with the parenting style of emotionally immature parents.

We’ll see three key categories emerge from combining Lindsay C. Gibson’s book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents and Burt and McGinnis’s The Myth of Good Christian Parenting: How False Promises Betrayed a Generation of Evangelical Families.

My hope is to shed light on how well-intending parents become immersed in oppressive parenting philosophies when they are immaturely immovable, competitive and gravitationally dominant.

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Save the date! Live substack hour with Kelsey Kramer McGinnis on Friday June 26th @ 11am MST!

Sexual Harm & Healing Film Group

I’m so excited to share that a dear colleague, Coburn Childs, and I are offering this unique group experience beginning September 2nd. Click on the link below to learn more details about how we’ll interact and the films we’ll discuss. Space is limited to 8-10 participants and is open to a wide range of people—those who are survivors wanting to take their next step in healing, souls who are unsure if they have experienced sexual harm, those supporting survivors and clinicians who want to expand their understanding of the complexity of this unique landscape of harm. Please reach out if you have specific questions and want to chat about whether this could be a great next step in your process!